"What do you like?" is one of the most asked questions on FetLife and 99.99% of the time when asked of me it means "What kinky stuff do you enjoy doing to men?" and is asked by men who want me to do kinky stuff to them. They actually have ZERO interest in what I actually like, for myself.
Almost every single image I see on FetLife of submissive women mid-scene reminds me of crime scene photos from serial killer cases.
Not everything you do in kink has to be amazing! fantastic! so hot!
I played in a public dungeon for the first time in about 30 years and I survived. It was... okay.
You see the photos of my new flogger, or him wrapped up in shrink wrap, or my freshly bootblacked boots and have all kinds of thoughts about what that means for our relationship, but odd
AI is hugely problematic from a resource hogging perspective at the very leat, but it is here to stay (at least until we run out of water). AI slop is also everywhere. Anthropic is a substantially more ethical company than all of the other providers, and their tools are better too.I pay to use Anthropic's AI tools and this is information about how I use it.
As a lifestyle Domme, I have never felt the need to promote myself—not as a top, not as a dominant partner. All of the relationships I’ve been in have been FLR to one extent or another (and the majority were not “kinky”), and I wasn’t even looking for that. They just happened naturally.
I cannot teach anyone to be dominant like me. I was born this way. That fact has shaped my entire life, whether vanilla or kink.
Posting nudes can be empowering for many people. It is not for me. And here's why.
The day to day looks very different from the fantasy. In fact, it looks pretty damned vanilla.