You see the photos of my new flogger, or him wrapped up in shrink wrap, or my freshly bootblacked boots and have all kinds of thoughts about what that means for our relationship, but odd
As a lifestyle Domme, I have never felt the need to promote myself—not as a top, not as a dominant partner. All of the relationships I’ve been in have been FLR to one extent or another (and the majority were not “kinky”), and I wasn’t even looking for that. They just happened naturally.
I cannot teach anyone to be dominant like me. I was born this way. That fact has shaped my entire life, whether vanilla or kink.
How do you reflect on your play sessions to understand more about your preferences and limits?
I've been doing this a long time and did not have community or the Internet when I started. Just because I've "done it all" and haven't killed anyone doesn't mean that classes are beneath me.
Someone on Reddit reached out to me to ask for some advice. He and his wife were working on their developing FLR. It was a pretty common scenario - husband realizing he was submissive, wife comfortable in leading the household, but where do we go from here. This was my reply.