Being generally a polite, loving dominant can make it difficult for me to get in a headspace of humiliation. I think in pictures so the verbal is something I really need to work on.
His body is my fetish, and my touch is his.
Service must be done with intent and attention to detail. But submissives are not mind readers so there is also a responsibility on the Domme's part to make sure tasks are given with clear instructions and expectations.
There's good pain, and there's bad pain. You don't have to be a masochist to learn how to tolerate the good stuff.
So much of heterosexual femdom is fantasy. “Forced” feminization, “forced” bisexuality. Forcing you onto your knees or bending over a spanking bench. Forcing you to be bound so nefarious things can be done to your body by someone society has says is weaker than, less than you.
Oh bondage! How many ways do I love thee? Lots!