The day to day looks very different from the fantasy. In fact, it looks pretty damned vanilla.
Polyamory often holds onto a very outdated view of what monogamy actually is, in practice, in today's more equitable world.
Someone on Reddit reached out to me to ask for some advice. He and his wife were working on their developing FLR. It was a pretty common scenario - husband realizing he was submissive, wife comfortable in leading the household, but where do we go from here. This was my reply.
Monogamy, when healthy, is not about restriction but about shared focus and emotional stability.
For me to engage in emotional intimacy, there must be substantial benefits, consistency, and clear communication.
If I'm interested, I'll let you know.