"What do you like?" is one of the most asked questions on FetLife and 99.99% of the time when asked of me it means "What kinky stuff do you enjoy doing to men?" and is asked by men who want me to do kinky stuff to them. They actually have ZERO interest in what I actually like, for myself.
You see the photos of my new flogger, or him wrapped up in shrink wrap, or my freshly bootblacked boots and have all kinds of thoughts about what that means for our relationship, but odd
While the concept of "conscious uncoupling" may seem eye-roll-worthy, approaching a breakup with intention and respect can lead to a more graceful and growth-oriented experience. Rather than giving in to pettiness and drama, being mindful during a split means taking accountability, releasing your former partner with goodwill, and acknowledging the emotional impact on everyone involved.
Trauma, no matter what it looks like, changes you on a cellular level. You will never be the same person you were before. The "return to normal" is less a return than a reset to a different frequency. This is why with multiple traumas it can feel like you've lost your bearings entirely. It can make you feel literally like you've lost your mind.
The Bonding Project is a research-driven exploration of how people form, sustain, and imagine intimate connection. These profiles are designed to help you better understand your relationship wants and needs—not as fixed traits or prescriptions, but as living patterns that evolve over time, context, and experience. [from the site]
Monogamy gets a bad rap in a cultural moment that treats polyamory as the more evolved relationship choice, but stripping monogamy back to its dictionary definition - the state of having one sexual partner at a time - reveals a lot more freedom than its critics want to admit. Monogamy isn't the outdated relationship escalator of marriage, shared finances, and merged identities; it's simply an orientation toward one sexual partner who feels the same way.