I harp on this all the time – go to munches, attend educational events, get connected. I know it’s not always easy depending on where you live and I’m sad to hear some communities are not as diverse and welcoming as they should be, BUT…
I’m not out and about looking for play partners. I’m out and about to build a community of people who get me. People who do fun things like throw Rope Bunny Easter parties. People who want to go see Rocky Horror Picture Show as a group, in costume. People who put on Fetish Fashion Shows where I see the people I know from other local events. People who have a weekly trivia night. People who introduce me to guys they think I’ll like. Because they know me, they like me, and they trust me with their friends who then become my friends.
The opportunity to kiss a boy and make him cry ends up being the lagniappe to being part of a community of fun, interesting, supportive, and very real people.
But you gotta leave your house.