A common question I see from new Dommes is “What can I make him do?”.
So often people think that it always has to be sexual activity of some kind, or a femdom trope like making him crawl across the floor. That can be fun, in moderation, but once you’ve had him crawl across the floor, then what?
This is why a focus on actual, useful service is something all Dommes should be thinking about. What is helpful to me?
- Have him wash all your baseboards.
- Tell him to wash the windows.
- Make him clean and organize the refrigerator.
You can make him do these things naked, or in a maid outfit wearing a butt plug – whatever you find entertaining. Or he can do the work in street clothes.
The key thing to focus on is what is helpful to you and how you want it done. You are the Domme. There’s nothing wrong per se with letting him do it in a maid uniform if that makes him happy, unless it really doesn’t float your boat. If it doesn’t float your boat and you’re not in the mood to compromise then your word is law.
And what happens if he does a half-assed job? He does it again until it’s up to your standards. Don’t forget though that he may never have washed baseboards before so you will need to tell him how to do it and what you are looking for. He is not a mind-reader.
Service from a submissive does not guarantee fetish dispensing from you. Think about how amazing you’ll feel with streak-free, clean windows and a submissive who is proud of the work he did for you. You’ll want to reward him, of course. How you do so is defined within your own unique dynamic. I say “thank you, babe” and give a kiss (and sometimes an ass grope).
If his service is dependent on you doing what he wants, is this really a power-dynamic? No, it’s not.
A quid pro quo where he completes a task and you “reward” him with something he wants that you do not is not a femdom power dynamic.