I’ve admittedly got a bit of a fetish for confession. Yes, I was Catholic. I also really like to push my victim partner into being embarrassingly explicit. It’s adorable.
The other reason I do this is that a good submissive can be hesitant to express those thoughts because they (rightly) do not want to feel like they are treating me as a kink dispenser. But my philosophy is that there are two of us doing this thing and as long as within the dynamic I am having my wants met as required then I can make sure that you are having your wants met as well, within the confines of the dynamic of course. I’m not going to do something that is of zero interest to me just for you.
I’m also interested in the shame perspective. Those of us raised in a Judeo-Christian society can pick up a lot of shame baggage along the way even if we weren’t raised in a family that packed it for us.
I have no desire for humiliation play – rather I want to unpack that shame and bring it right out into the bright light of day. What’s “sinful” is usually pleasurable and who doesn’t love pleasure? What might feel like a dirty little secret to you is something I may find incredibly hot and I’ll want to give that to us both.
Hopefully it goes without saying that we are not talking trauma therapy here. A confessional role play can be super triggering for those harmed by the Catholic church, and certainly they are not the only denomination to do damage with sexual assault and silence.