I can’t take credit for this – my therapist gave it to me. But I find it really helpful, so maybe you will too.
You can either write your answers and share it with your partner, or you can just use the list as talking points (or both). I like to write out my answers because then I am giving them the right attention and can elaborate.
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What went well in our relationship this week? (this month?)
What went poorly this week? How can we fix it?
What is something I did this week that made you feel loved?
How could I help you more on a regular basis?
What is something I can do regularly to make you feel loved and
appreciated?
Is there something I’ve done that upset or hurt you this week? How can
I make it better?
Did we make time for closeness and connection this week? If not, how
can we prioritize that in the future?
Is there something we need to work on as a couple to have a stronger
relationship?
What are your main stressors right now? How can I help?
What can I do to help or support you in the coming week?
How are you feeling about our sex life?
How would you rate our communication this week? How can we
improve?
Anything else you want to share with me?