I missed this particular call but I love their discussion questions.
How do you reflect on your play sessions to understand more about your preferences and limits?
Was I turned on? As a sexual sadist that is the goal.
Was I doing something that I wasn’t enthusiastic about just to have a naked moment with my partner? Was I feeling like a kink dispenser? What about the scene made me feel that way?
Did I have focus on my partner? Was I too much in my own head or was he an equal part of the equation?
Was anything akward? I feel like I’ve gotten better at pre-prepping everything. Having nipple clamps handy at all times, knowing if I’m going to do impact or just bondage and hands and teeth, being a little more intentional with what I want to work with ahead of time. Nothing slows my roll like having to run into another room to search through a drawer for something.
I also really REALLY dislike the word “play”. I’m not playing. What I do is *foreplay* for me. Always. I could be pinching nipples on the way out the door to dinner and a movie but that is absolutely with sex later in mind.
It’s not a “scene” — it’s sex. Eventually, I’m getting off.