When I need to vent/discuss/check in to make sure I’m not crazy I reach out to a dear fellow Domme. We met through Bondage.com back in the day. I’m pretty sure I gave her the initial thumbs up on her partner back then. We’ve met in person, although not nearly enough considering we’ve known each other for over 20 years (yes, that is correct), and are on the same coast.
She knew me before I got married, during my marriage, during the most traumatic event of my life of that time – Hurricane Katrina, through the end of my marriage, and my adventures since. She’s a sadist like me. She’s short and feisty like me. She’s a California Yankee like me.
We are “aging” perverts, navigating this thing along the same path. I very much appreciate her support, her insight, her commiseration, and her generosity as a friend.
Find and keep close people in this lifestyle who are your true compatriots – who witness your journey as you witness theirs.